This is
«Wait, Is It A Romantic Date»
the podcast about queer dating you won’t ever realized you usually needed, organized by me, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came into this world out-of Drew and I also’s common passion for vocals memos and strong conversations about matchmaking. We have been delivering one another voice memos for just over a year today, going deep on situations Drew really likes about matchmaking (people! fun! flirting!) while the circumstances I hate about dating (individuals! Fun! Flirting!). We were having an enjoyable experience, considerate, and insightful discussions and honestly, it seemed impolite to deny the more general public of these!

Consider united states as the friendly community co-hosts, leading you through awesome certain queer matchmaking conundrums because really, straight internet dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG stories? How will you take very long, slow flirting one step further? How much does it imply to believe men and women are into you? We’re going to talk to some of Autostraddle’s finest article authors, play some super certain games, document on our very own pop culture crushes of the moment and undoubtedly, make an effort to answer the endless question in our occasions:

Wait…is this a date???

Pay attention to the intro below and whet your appetite, and smash that «subscribe» button anywhere good podcasts are distributed, thus ensuring you a delightful August 11th, if the first recognized occurrence falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And That I’m Christina. And this refers to

Wait, Is It a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast that will be centered on the question, «hold off, is it a night out together?»

Drew:

I’m very excited to discover.

Theme tune plays

Christina:

Yeah. I believe we’ve been on a journey discover what exactly are dates and preciselywhat are not times, as pals, but also as a people, In my opinion.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians just what all of our whole indealment is actually, like that which we’re around within moment?

Drew:

Like exactly who the audience is?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I could go first. I’m called Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the web site. I do countless film and television feedback, and intercourse and matchmaking authorship, and private essays, and items that blend all of those circumstances. I’m trans I am also a lesbian, and that I feel just like I should include a third thing because everything is in threes. Just what else? Exactly what else?

Christina:

Circumstances do embark on threes. You have got great hair.

Drew:

Oh, thank you.

Christina:

You’ve got wonderful tresses, I think which is important.

Drew:

Those are my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great hair.

Christina:

Those tend to be your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I’ve constantly mentioned that you’re a female of tresses experience. I usually mentioned that about you.

Drew:

Yeah. It’s really crucial.

Christina:

Yeah. Im Christina Tucker. I will be in addition an author at Autostraddle, when you can accept is as true, exactly who produces about… oh, why don’t we just say whatever pops into their heads. Which is really the feeling. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Ebony. I am not sure just who otherwise i will be.

Drew:

You will also have fantastic locks.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, What i’m saying is, I think this is certainly possibly a podcast of locks knowledge. Possibly that ought to be the tagline, «a podcast of hair knowledge.» I suppose people are probably wondering the way we have got to this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every best part in daily life — and also by that I mean, really, not many — it started as a highdea, as something I sent you in a sound memo, large. And going back beyond that, we began giving vocals memos together in the beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am merely likely to show such as the feelings that i’ve, and after that you can go following that and react to myself, maybe not react to me personally, whatever. I am similar to, this is certainly me becoming drive and clear. Okay. I am somebody who… i really like dealing with online dating. It’s one of my primary subjects of talk. I have now said my piece.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks a lot for claiming your own piece. In addition, six moments and 54 moments. Truly, instead amazing for you to get that out in that timeframe. We hardly ever really remember matchmaking. I do believe, probably, an opposite feeling of you and your love to think about internet dating and mention internet dating and, like, end up being matchmaking. I think those tend to be my feelings. Well, I’m giving a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length vocals memo today. I’m going to deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I know that you do not think about internet dating, not approximately me, perhaps less than anybody else I’m sure?

Christina, in a voice memo:

In my opinion about dating below very nearly anybody I also know. I am not sure. I truthfully don’t know basically’ve fulfilled anyone whon’t remember dating in so far as I would or in so far as I don’t, I guess.

Drew:

We did not actually know each other. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but for people that simply don’t know, Autostraddle is actually an online office space. It really is more of a Slack circumstance than a, we all arrive to like lesbian headquarters with briefcases. That’s not really the feeling. We didn’t actually know each other. And, the start of pandemic, there was clearly some DM sliding several relationship building and a few vocals memoing. Therefore would usually joke it absolutely was like we’d a podcast because we might deliver these lengthy vocals memos. Immediately after which as I ended up being stoned, I happened to be similar, «We actually should.» And here we are.

Christina:

Yeah. I am aware that which you mean by high tactics not at all times getting top tactics, but I do have a really obvious remembrance of hearing you claim that and being like, «Yeah, definitely we should have a podcast. Our company is doing each some other. Why not ask others in it?»

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Generally my personal high tips are things like, «Oh my God, there must be a TV show known as

Find Your Star Twin,

the place you just take a celebrity then they meet someone that — like an arbitrary individual who features their particular exact same birth information. That also, is one of my large a few ideas that I think was fantastic. Its like…

Christina:

Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Drew:

Which is a no cost one. I do not care and attention.

Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, I’m getting you money, I am going to end up being your cash supervisor regarding. Definitely not.

Drew:

I simply need to see this stuff around. Basically, this is exactly a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. Plus one reason why truly that topic, unlike any number of other things Christina and I also explore, is because I love online dating and Christina will not love online dating and that is a fun little.

Christina:

Less of a fan.

Drew:

And conflict is actually… that is where drama occurs. I do believe Socrates mentioned that.

Christina:

Positively.

Drew:

And that’s why that’s our very own subject. We will cover all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We are going to mention all of the finest queer online dating conundrums, online dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from future episode:

Correct me personally basically’m wrong, but i believe Instagram is the greatest queer dating app.

Shelli, in audio video from future episode:

A thousand percent. This is the most useful.

Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

I have heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in audio clip from future event:

Absolutely. It gives you actually everything you need, except if someone’s personal. But even though you’re private, infant, we’ll see exactly about you, some kind of method.

Drew, in sound video from potential event:

We will speak about top gender we have had.

Dani, in audio video from potential occurrence:

And At long last asked like, «No, did you go beyond right here having intercourse? Are we probably have sexual intercourse?» As well as happened to be like, «Yeah, that is what i needed.» Plus it had been like, the cat together with puppy were within the room so there ended up being cat and dog hair every where. And I also was actually like, surely having an allergic reaction while we had been sex. The orgasm had been, like, chef’s hug. It had been the most perfect knowledge.

Drew, in audio clip from potential episode:

Wow.

Christina, in audio clip from potential episode:

We wonder whether it’s one thing regarding hives that actually included. Like slightly ‘jenesequa’ compared to that climax feel. It was like, «Ooh, I’m only a little itchy also.» I question how much cash that elements. We are dealing with just how to break-up with individuals.

Ro, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

It feels like a really directly culture thing, as well.

Christina, in audio video from future episode:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio video from future occurrence:

At the least in my opinion, I believe like… My personal direct buddies are the ones who will be very likely to state, «Well, fuck that individual. See your face sucks,» easily finish a relationship with some one. Whereas, queer folks in living are those who will be almost certainly going to preserve relationships with exes or perhaps see all of our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in audio clip from potential episode:

All you could contemplate in an internet dating podcast, and that I’m perhaps not probably lie to you personally people, additionally a lot more. Over you could potentially previously imagine.

Drew, in audio video from potential occurrence:

When you’re sexting via text, can it be like what you want all of them… will you be undertaking role-plays of a scenario, like «you’re pressing me immediately» or «I wish you used to be touching,» what tense are we in?

Kayla, in audio video from future episode:

Yeah, I became browsing ask similar concern, really, for the reason that it’s something which’s always interesting to me, especially simply because many of us are experts, in addition.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

I was gonna state, a small grouping of article authors fancy, «just what tight are we functioning?»

Kayla, in sound video from future episode:

Viewpoint.

Christina, in sound clip from future episode:

Its a detailed 3rd, what exactly is happening right here?

Kayla, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Like, purely second?

Drew:

Here’s finished . about queer people. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull up a chair. Introducing the TED Talk. Let’s set off.

Drew:

We’ve got numerous encounters and are also a lot more interesting. Simply whenever I think about the method in which directly men and women explore matchmaking, its therefore monotonous. And I also think so usually, queer dating discussions are extensions on the conventional matchmaking discussion, but incorporating such things as «being released» and «first-time you are with a blah, blah, blah.» It really is like — absolutely so much more nuance in books… It’s therefore exciting. Exactly what some sort of that it’s, queer intercourse and queer dating.

Christina:

We have taken like the very classic types of boring structure of heterosexual relationship and really delivered it into a unique globe, full of very long discussions and running our very own emotions. It is incredible work.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m truly excited and I also hope all of you tend to be thrilled, because our very first event comes out each week from today following, there will end up being new symptoms every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been seven days before you’ll hear our podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not only get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you will get

Hold Off, Is This A Night Out Together?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And that I co-host both, when you don’t like me, I guess you are not experiencing Autostraddle podcasts. Just in case you do at all like me, you are welcome.

Christina:

Additionally, unless you like Drew, mature, is really what i must state.

Drew:

I’m not for all, I’m ok thereupon. In my opinion it’s probably advisable that you not be for all.

Christina:

Sure. In my opinion which is totally fair. And perhaps a subject we can easily go over using one of your future episodes. What happens when you are perhaps not for all? I loved that We moved like, «Ooh, let’s get this all-inclusive.» What the results are once you, we, as people. You stated, why don’t we carry out a whole occurrence in regards to, «imagine if I am not for everybody?»

Drew:

Really, its Leo period and I also’m a Leo increasing and I felt like rendering it about me. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. Thank you so much truly.

Drew:

We’re double Leo risings on this subject podcast, that is certainly element of precisely why it will be brilliant. You can easily pay attention to you anywhere you pay attention to your own podcast. It will likely be a fairly common podcast circumstance. Absolutely nothing extravagant, no riddles must be fixed to find the episode, it will be right there available.

Christina:

Simply not the employer of you. There are many choices, carry out what you should.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you will find us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you may email united states at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And get a hold of me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my name in today’s tense.

Christina:

You will find looked over your own social networking addresses often and I also have not, until this time, understood that it is «draw.» Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that’s the thing, Drew ended up being used and I don’t know how… Oh, I found myself matchmaking some body which actually… really this individual just who I dated, i did not get many out of that commitment, except I stated this concept and she thought it was so funny, like too amusing, genuinely, like a portion of the problem, I think maybe. And that I ended up being motivated to take action, following it’s just stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Occasionally folks believe I’m an aesthetic singer and you know very well what, i enjoy be thought of like that, but i can not, I do not really have design abilities.

Christina:

I’ll state you’ll find nothing on brand for Drew than getting like, «Oh, which is the Twitter handle.» And you also becoming want, «really, it’s a funny story about matchmaking.»

Drew:

Certainly, precisely.

Christina:

Best.

Drew:

Exactly what are your private handles, and tend to be they linked to your intimate life?

Christina:

Just, no. You might get me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the internet site. Whenever you intend to find me on Instagram, can be done thus, at @christina_gracet. And it’s actually brave of us to know my Instagram handle.

Drew:

Amazing work.

Christina:

Cheers a whole lot.

Drew:

It is usually a happiness to speak with both you and I’m thus excited to plunge into most of these interesting subject areas. And also for our very own listeners to make the journey to understand all of us a little bit much better acquire to… I think we can all, i believe we’re all attending discover about this trip.

Christina:

I hope so. We signed up for understanding.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school length of podcasts. That managed to get sound like a complete bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I’m not sure. I’d some really great college courses.

Christina:

Certainly, Used To Do also, but I don’t need to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you imagine just how incredible it would be in the event that you showed up your university class and either folks was your professor, or we trained a class together, that’d become hottest thing previously. Folks is like…

Christina:

Finest pass around. Enrollment is actually from the data.

Drew:

Oh, we should have an episode that is focused on hot teachers. That’s not related.

Christina:

That’s not maybe not relevant. I’ll claim that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I’m like there may be — you should make it a little broader, but who knows? That knows just what will be in tomorrow, and that is truly interesting. While know that will know? You, listener, whenever you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You tune in therefore crucially struck that old subscribe switch and you will spend time with our team every Wednesday and have your self, «what exactly is a date?»

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers myself to… I’m not sure. I became merely thinking… ended up being this a night out together?

Christina:

Drew, no. This will be a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool off. Okay. Great. Okay. I do believe i am getting the hang of it and you know very well what’s fantastic, is because I inquired, now I know, and from now on in direct communication is actually what it’s about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

And one that a lot of people in the community could learn. And wewill, ideally, this is actually a site. It is a reduced amount of a podcast and a lot more of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I becamen’t alert to that, but i am excited to find out that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. A couple of my favorite circumstances. Two of my personal favorite things to begin with P, podcasts and governmental acts.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe my personal instinct is if i love individuals and that I want them within my existence, I know the easiest way in my situation to make sure they’re in my life is to make them a friend.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m simply very pleased we’ve become these types of buddies. And if off quarantine, that is what occurred, I made this unique brand-new buddy, who i enjoy dearly and that I’m just pleased to speak with you usually, like what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced an idea therefore moved away. It was honestly probably actually brilliant.